Good evening
As I probably have posted before, I am currently reading The Fault in Our Stars by John Green which I am pretty sure will be finished in a day or two. This book really is wonderful and I really had a great time reading it.
Some of the things I learned, while not yet finishing this book, is the notion of being loved.
Reading a lot of books, I have came to a conclusion that a story without love would be boring and monotonous. Not that I hate them, it's just not that enjoyable to read. Books such as Harry Potter or even classics such as Bram Stoker's Dracula has romance somewhere in the story.
"Love just makes everything better."
However I can not say that I fully agree with that quote above. It might make everything better but there's always a limit to it. Love can make us blind. I still remember that Cassandra Clare said "To love is to destroy." I'm pretty sure love is not THAT BAD, but lust can be bad. And love is sometimes mistaken as lust. It's a complicated matter.
Anyways, my real topic for this post is being loved. Growing up in a family that is filled with love, a child would develop their own identity and a sense that they matter in this world. That is how crucial being loved for a child is. A child that grows up not being loved will end up in despair or suicide. Please take note that being loved by your parents does not mean that they will give you everything you want.
Now the interesting topic. YOUNG LOVE
Don't you just swoon when a character in a movie says "I love you" to their loved one after a looong perilous battle or some sort. I know I do. A LOT. How bout if a real life "male specimen" really said that to you girls with his whole heart and look at you in the eye as he said it. You're going to be at Cloud 9!
It is an undeniable fact that all of us wants to love and to be loved.
It's just great to finally find that one person who loves you for who you are.
However, with the young generation nowadays, the case is not wanting to love but to be loved. And THAT is the root of jealousy. Simply seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend with someone else who happen to be of opposite sex will make a surge of anger inside of you. That's jealousy.
No it is not love and hate at the same time. At some point yes, but personally, I don't think it's love. Love is not letting go of everything either. Letting go of your girlfriend to do something wrong is not the right thing to do, boys. Love is wanting what's best for him/her. If it's best for you to let go, then let go. But don't let go if she doesn't want you to go. Simply improve yourself to be a better person. Know what's best for each other.
Now, in order to solve the case of young people nowadays *yes, I am also young and still learning myself*, NEVER and I do say NEVER, expect the other side to satisfy you with his/her "love". Not in a pessimistic kind of way. Just don't make his/her love your source of identity and security. Security can not be bought. Security comes from the inside and you do need to know that before you can love, you need to be secure with yourself too.
Don't you just swoon when a character in a movie says "I love you" to their loved one after a looong perilous battle or some sort. I know I do. A LOT. How bout if a real life "male specimen" really said that to you girls with his whole heart and look at you in the eye as he said it. You're going to be at Cloud 9!
It is an undeniable fact that all of us wants to love and to be loved.
It's just great to finally find that one person who loves you for who you are.
However, with the young generation nowadays, the case is not wanting to love but to be loved. And THAT is the root of jealousy. Simply seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend with someone else who happen to be of opposite sex will make a surge of anger inside of you. That's jealousy.
No it is not love and hate at the same time. At some point yes, but personally, I don't think it's love. Love is not letting go of everything either. Letting go of your girlfriend to do something wrong is not the right thing to do, boys. Love is wanting what's best for him/her. If it's best for you to let go, then let go. But don't let go if she doesn't want you to go. Simply improve yourself to be a better person. Know what's best for each other.
Now, in order to solve the case of young people nowadays *yes, I am also young and still learning myself*, NEVER and I do say NEVER, expect the other side to satisfy you with his/her "love". Not in a pessimistic kind of way. Just don't make his/her love your source of identity and security. Security can not be bought. Security comes from the inside and you do need to know that before you can love, you need to be secure with yourself too.
"How do you expect a person to love you if you can't even love yourself?"
A message to girls:
Girls, you are beautiful. No matter what people say, you are beautiful just the way your are. *I am not quoting Bruno Mars* People might say that to be beautiful means you have to be skinny or voluptuous or anything else. To them, beauty is relative. It's what's appeasing to the eyes that means something. That is WRONG I TELL YOU, WROOONNNGGG. I am pretty sure what I'm going to say has been repeated a lot of times, but it is true. Beauty comes from the heart. When the heart good, then the outside is also good. Now what is the heart???
The heart is the source of your actions, the way you think and your worldview. It's the most complicated source. If it is filled with something good, let's see. Such as kindness, good characters, discipline. I am pretty sure it will show on the outside. From my observing, people who are discipline has a more successful, healthy, and happy life. This is why the heart matters so much.
Don't ever let the world tell you that you're not beautiful. Trust me. There is that one person out there who will love you the way you are. There's already One since the day you got your first heartbeat.
I think that would be all of my rants for today haha. I have been discipline in my blog lately huh? Let's see... Thank you for reading and I hope this helps you somehow. If there are any questions or if you are in need of any suggestions, feel free to comment or send me a message ;) Thanks again!
Sincerely yours,
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